The creation of "The Day I Saw Red"

The Journey of Raising Daughters: An Unexpected Challenge

As a woman who has experienced the journey from girlhood to womanhood, one might think that raising daughters would come naturally. After all, I've been there, I've done that — how difficult could it really be? However, I quickly discovered that the reality of parenting, particularly raising daughters, is a labyrinth of complexities that I was blissfully unprepared for. Becoming a mother to two incredible girls has opened my eyes to the fact that, while I had my own experiences, each child is a universe unto themselves, filled with unique thoughts, feelings, and levels of intelligence that often leave me in awe.

From the moment my first daughter was born, I knew I was in for an adventure. I had always prided myself on being clever and quick-witted, but the insight I’ve gained from my daughters and their peers has revealed a level of intelligence and emotional depth in young girls that’s astonishing. Watching them navigate their worlds with insight and creativity makes me realize that the challenge of raising them is much greater than I had anticipated.

The First Dose of Reality

One of the earliest moments that highlighted my unpreparedness came when it dawned on me: my eldest daughter could soon start her period. At the tender age of 10, my heart sank with anxiety. I had friends whose daughters began this transition at 9, and I was taken aback, recalling my own late initiation into womanhood at 14. The thought of having to navigate this particularly delicate phase of development with her caused a mix of disbelief, fear, and worry.

How could I, who had gone through this experience myself, now feel so utterly unprepared? I found myself lying awake at night, grappling with questions: Should I bring it up? Is she ready to understand? And if so, how should I begin this conversation? The more I thought about it, the more overwhelmed I became.

In a moment of desperation, I even considered altering her diet to slow down her physical development — a futile effort, I now realize. I began to pray, asking for more time, wishing to postpone this pivotal moment in her life.

Sharing My Journey

It was during this tumultuous time that the idea sparked within me to create something that could help not just my daughter, but others navigating the same uncertain waters. Thus, “The Day I Saw Red” was born, a children’s storybook aimed at elementary-aged girls. I felt compelled to tell a story about periods, not to scare them, but to prepare them — to remove the element of surprise that so many girls face when this inevitable milestone arrives.

In my research, I discovered a recurring theme: many women grew up hearing the phrase, "You're a woman now," upon getting their periods. While well-intentioned, this declaration can feel daunting to a child. Suddenly, the carefree days of childhood seem threatened with the weight of responsibility and change. But I came to realize that this doesn't have to be the case.

Normalizing the Transition

Raising girls in today’s world involves redefining societal narratives around womanhood, particularly regarding menstruation. My primary focus with the book is to reassure young girls that they can still be the same playful, imaginative children they’ve always been. The onset of menstruation is merely a natural part of growing up — one that shouldn’t define them or alter their essence overnight.

I want girls to know that just because they are experiencing physiological changes doesn’t mean they need to abandon their toys, their laughter, or their childhood joys. With new responsibilities, yes, but without abrupt and anxiety-ridden shifts. I believe it’s crucial for parents — no matter their gender — to approach this subject with openness, positivity, and education, creating a safe space for conversation.

Conclusion

Navigating the complexities of raising daughters has taught me that parenting is a learning journey for both mother and child. While I certainly have my own experiences to draw from, the intelligence, insight, and maturity of young girls today remind me that there is so much more to learn. As I guide my daughters toward adulthood, I am committed to instilling in them the understanding that they can embrace change without letting it define them. Through conversations, stories, and shared experiences, I hope to empower them to grow into confident women, all while carrying the light-hearted spirit of their girlhood with them.